Are You Serious?
Sometimes on the pregnancy boards you get some of the oddest questions. And not to make light of the concern but sometimes you have to wonder how these people managed to get pregnant. One day there was the troll who asked if having sex could impregnate her daughter in the womb. LOL! Can't tell you how many people said yes just for fun. But that was a troll, we knew it. The question was just far too stupid.
But there are others, that are out there, but from serious concerned mothers. Things like "I ate a turkey sandwich, is my baby okay?" "I had cookie dough, is my baby dead?"
Seriously people a lot of the eating guidelines are there are just that guidelines, they aren't law and if you break them your baby will probably be fine. Why? Because we live in a country that has a pretty good regulated food system. If you lived in a 3rd world country, then you could be concerned.
Then the woman who clearly have no thought for their husbands at all come out and that is what bothers me mother. The utter lack of respect for his family, the constant complaining. And then when people give solutions to problems, the "Oh that won't work." You're either a victim or you aren't. Make a decision. My MIL is quirky at best, but frankly who cares, she's my husband's mother and deserves some respect.
That's always pissed me off, woman placing their mothers above their husband's mother's. I mean even to the point where they've literally cut off the husband's side of the family. I understand, I'm attached to my mother, but my daughter still sees my husband's mother at least once a week (she lives like 2 hours away). My philosophy, the more people to love her, the better.
Sometimes it takes a little give in a relationship. The realization that it's not all about you or your feelings. And that you'll have to suck it up, and do what's best for your family as a whole, like it or not. I think women have become overly selfish these days in general. Dr. Laura would say that entitlement has increased like ten fold in this nation. I'm not sure if it's feminism, Dr. Laura would say so, but something has changed. Everyone is out for themselves, their betterment, their happiness, and if it doesn't benefit them, then forget it they're not doing it. Pure selfishness.
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January 25th, 2010 - 21:45
The selfish, but smart ones get divorced before getting to the point where kids are involved. That’s why I got the heck out. Now you know he was a dumbass but still, if you can’t respect him before kids, don’t freaking have kids with him like that’s the freaking solution.
Some people.
January 25th, 2010 - 17:33
Sometimes MILs are crazy though. I can understand when mother’s keep them away for the sake of the children.
January 25th, 2010 - 17:57
Oh yeah I’ve heard my share of crazy MIL stories. My advice to those people typically is limit contact, or cut it off. Some of the stories though I can’t see the crazy, like wanting to visit once a month (seriously was a complaint). Or wanting to come after the baby is born to visit for a weekend (as if this is a bad thing). I guess it could be hormones of course, it’s just hard to read sometimes because I feel bad for the hubby’s that clearly have close family relationships and are being forced to choose.