Ramblings of a Stay at Home Mom!

Calling Out Women…

Posted by Pamala on Sep 29th, 2009 in What Chaps My Ass | Comments Off

So this has been a peeve of mine since this all started. But can someone fill me in on why Jon from Jon & Kate Plus 8 (now known as Kate Plus 8 ) is a “douchebag” or a “bad father”? What exactly makes him a bad father?

So he’s dating a 22 year old? So what? How does that reflect on him as a father?

So he goes on a vacation? So what? People go on vacations all the time without their kids. Why can’t he?

So he moved to NY? So what, he spends the week he has with the kids at the house with them. I guess people think the kids go to NY. Nope. He goes to them. And guess what? Kate lives elsewhere on her off weeks!

So he he’s been less than nice about Kate? So what? Frankly with the years that we’ve been put through the Kate bash the hell out of Jon show, frankly I say it doesn’t surprise me he’s speaking out against her. Especially when she plays the freaking saint as if she’s done nothing wrong. How she could treat him like trash and think it wouldn’t come to divorce is beyond me.

People say he needed to grow balls and stand up to her. And he did, and he’s doing what he wants, and now he’s a douche? Frankly this double standard women have is just damn annoying.

You know what? It’s not okay to treat your husband like a piece of trash.

I’m getting tired of reading that Kate is struggles to raise 8 kids “by herself”. Please woman you have nannies, cooks, house keepers, and personal assistants. You aren’t doing it alone. Add to that you don’t have the kids for 2 weeks of the month, you managed to go on the freaking View and co-host, and continue to do your stupid ass book tour, so quit bitching about doing it alone.

Anyhow that’s my rant, and probably the last one on this subject.

The Big Computer Meltdown…

Posted by Pamala on Sep 29th, 2009 in Everyday Life | Comments Off

So on the 27th I decided I’d had enough of not being able to install a darn thing on my computer, the Installer application or whatever it is called was no where to be found on my computer. For weeks before this I’d been researching possibly downloading something for free that would take the place of the missing application but found nothing. I even posted on the Apple Support forum just to have some idiot ask me if I had looked in this folder or that folder. I had stated in my original post that I had and that it was totally gone.

So the recommended fix to this problem was to Archive and Install feature on the OS X disc. So I started the process. And mid-process the disc failed and apparently screwed everything up. Deleted all the files and so forth. So we started the OS X disc again and this time it worked but set it up as a new system.

Then I had to pull the information off the Time Capsule and put it back onto the laptop. That took forever! But I finally got it all back on my laptop and updated to Snow Leopard as well.

Now I’ve just been dealing with the minor stuff, downloading applications that didn’t transfer, downloading drivers so it will print, etc…

I have to say that Snow Leopard isn’t all that cool though although some of the features I hear are cool, but I don’t exactly use those at the moment so I wouldn’t notice them.

What did they do?

Posted by Pamala on Sep 27th, 2009 in Random Thoughts | Comments Off

So I’ve been thinking lately about what some Mommies in the blog world have done to create what would be deemed as successful blogs. I’ve had this conversation on a message board as well, about what makes them successful.

Some would say nothing makes them successful. That their writing style is nothing different than the rest of us. They just happened to say the wrong thing at their blog about another blogger, do the wrong thing, at someone’s blog who has a lot of readers and then from there they became popular due to people wanting to see what they will say next. I have found that for me that’s how I came to know three or so of the blogs that are currently overrated and popular. Through some controversy that floated the Internet.

Then others would say that in general the Infertility world tends to stay close to each other and reach out to those in need so if you have a blog and are having issues they tend to band together. Some are asking, “Why were you on infertility blogs? You didn’t have issues.” I know, but when I got pregnant I did a lot of research and reading of forums and in that process came across infertility blogs and was pulled in by the people’s struggles and success stories and even their not successful tries. About 30 of the blogs I read at one time or another had something to do with infertility. Since it’s been nearly 3 years most have moved past infertility and onto being Mommy blogs. You can’t help but feel good for those people. Some are quite popular due to the trials they went to, other’s are not.

Then another way would be to have something insanely traumatic happen. Going through a divorce after years of trying to conceive and getting pregnant just to have you husband walk out or having your child have major medical problems, or God forbid, die. You have to be careful though with these blogs because a lot of people will say they’re a scam and I think that just comes from the fact that there are mentally unstable people who will put together a blog based on fake events and suck people in and take money and so forth. That’s really sad that anyone would do that but they do.

Then they say that those who have had these experiences are just exploiting their situation for money. Some blogs you can see it, other’s though I don’t see it. Maybe because I have a child with special needs. I write about her conditions and the trails of her condition because this is my blog and I need to write things out. It has nothing to do with exploiting my daughter. I will say though that I don’t constantly write about my daughter and maybe that’s the difference between the other blogs and mine? Perhaps if I made it seem like my daughter’s condition was ten times worse than it is, then maybe I’d have more readers? Some people do believe that there are a few online who play up their situation way worse than it is to gain readership.

Then others would say that there are some blogs out there that are just overrated crap that have cult followings. I have to say sometimes I check out these so called overrated blogs and have to wonder what made them popular, cause you can’t find the drama, the pain and tribulation like the others. They just are popular. And they are overrated. Two or three blogs I read are just overrated popular Mom Blogs who have nothing of real substance to offer beyond their everyday lives.

Not to say they shouldn’t write, because they should, it’s what a blog is for. But they aren’t like a few blogs I read who will write commentary and thoughts on what’s happening in the nation or about things they’ve been experience that can effect all of us. These overrated blogs have the “I fed my kid this and then she did this and the dog farted and here I took a picture.” and that’s it. How they manage to drag out their day into three or four paragraphs is beyond me. And how they manage to be main speakers at Blogging conferences and get on TV (and national TV at that) is way beyond me.

I guess in the end it doesn’t matter though because you can’t criticize someone for doing something that works. Some people make pretty good money off their blogs, and who can fault them for wanting to continue to bring money in, especially in this economy. But it’s not wrong to wonder what the hell the appeal of some of these people are to others? It must just be preferences and appealing to those like you.

Apparently I have none of that. The most readers I’ve ever had in a day was 150 and that was because apparently saying that those who ride bikes and don’t follow basic traffic laws are morons, can really set off the biking community (although most agreed with me). LOL! But my normal average per day is between 30 and 50 readers. I’m not sure who you folks are or why you keep reading, but hello! Thank you for coming to my site!

On a side note in November the National Write a Book Month, or whatever it’s called, will begin. I’m thinking of doing it this time around. I started last year and was on a pretty good roll but trying to write and also take care of Kaylee was a bit too much. This year I may have more time on my hands. I’ll write a better book as well. I might splurge and buy Shrivner (sp?). It was a pretty good program.

Trial and Error…

Posted by Pamala on Sep 26th, 2009 in Everyday Life | Comments Off

So I knew with Kaylee starting school we might see a drop in her blood sugar levels and sure as I can be we did.

It’s been trial and error for the past three weeks trying to figure it out though. The main problem is that Kaylee doesn’t eat lunch. She’s easily distracted especially when she’s eating something she doesn’t like. Of course the school isn’t going to force her to eat, they don’t have the resources to do that.

I gave over Banana’s in the hopes of that helping but it didn’t seem to be doing much, mainly because they were using them for snack instead of lunch.

On Friday I decided to provide them with one of those drinkable yogurts that Kaylee drinks in the morning. Needless to say it worked. Although Kaylee loves Cheese Pizza and Ice Cream as well so that might have been part of it. But since it worked I’m going to head to Costco to pick up yogurt for her at school and also some Bananas. Then I have to get something else too which I can’t remember at this moment. There were three things on my list of things to pick up so I have to figure it out. Oh yes Zrytec as well because I’m dying without my Allergy medicine.

So next week we’ll see how it goes for school.

School pictures are on Wednesday so we’ll see how those come out.

Also I’m fundraising as well. Kaylee’s school wants to buy some Leapsters for the class. If you want to help out and donate or buy something from me, contact me through comments (leaving an email you actually use) and I’ll get back to you.