I’m a dummy…
Or so says Rachel Cooke.
One might have thought that, over time, the move towards sexual
equality in the workplace would have meant that the yawning gap between
women with children and those without would have closed to the degree that it
would be almost insignificant. In fact, it seems to be growing, at
least among the spoilt western middle classes. Once upon a time,
educated women fought to separate their identities from the ideal of
mother, knowing that until the two came to be seen as wholly distinct
they would never be taken seriously; and, in any case, who wants to be
defined by only one aspect of their life? In the past decade, however -
a decade that began, if you are in search of neat bookends, with the
birth of Brooklyn Beckham - a growing number of women have reverted,
50s-style, to identifying themselves primarily, vociferously, and
sometimes exclusively, as mothers. They fetishise childbirth, and
obsess about all that follows it, in a way that is almost, if not
quite, beyond satire, and which makes me feel a bit sick.
Now read the rest of the article to hear the insanity that goes on it. Apparently it's not okay for women to identify ourselves as primarly mothers because somehow that sets us back on the equality situation. I've always wanted to be a mother. I never felt there was anything else for me. So I never had any career goals, never felt the need to climb any corporate ladder. I just wanted to be a mom. So sorry if my life revolves around my child and sorry if that makes me a 50's woman. But I believe my primary role in my household is to be at home with my child. Plain and simple.
How my choice to focus my life around my child reflects though on other women at all is beyond me. That doesn't make much sense that somehow my belief that my role in life is to be a Mom would set back other women and make it impossible for them to succeed in the workplace. I guess some men could argue that since I stay at home that obviously all mothers should stay at home but that's flawed logic anyhow.
So I think Miss Cooke here is a very jealous person. It's the only thing I can think of when reading the article. Perhaps she feels left out. That people don't pay enough attention to her. I mean calling a mother selfish for talking about her child? Miss Cooke also fails to recognize the drastic life change that is having a child and how a woman's focus and even a mans focus changes to primarily be about the child. This is common for people without children, to not recognize how life has changed for the parent. So I think Miss Cooke is just a jealous woman who wishes people would focus on her as much as they focus on Mothers and on babies. That's the only thing that makes sense for someone to write this tripe.
I'm proud to be a dummy if that means I'm a loving mother who enjoys talking about her child and doing things with her child. I'll be proud to continue to be a dummy as well and Miss Cooke can kiss my Dummy Ass!
To end this post I'll post fetishly a picture of my daughter because I can!
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