Everything you wanted to know and even more!

So off and on I do website google searches on some of the blogs I read just to see what’s going on. Recently on of the Mommy Bloggers gave a speech that I guess came off as condescending and offensive to some at the conference she was giving the speech at. I read the speed and maybe because I already know she’s insanely religious, I’d put her up there on the fundi level, it wasn’t much of a surprise to me. Perhaps though these people at the speech didn’t know of her, or were just not avid readers of hers. What she said is nothing she hasn’t said before. I can see though why her statements would anger someone especially those with children suffering with disorders or life threatening illness’. The common statement was, “Why won’t/didn’t God heal my child?” I’d actually like to see her answer that question. See what her thoughts are on the subject. But I’d hazard to guess based on her previous posts that she’d just say simply that it’s God’s will. That doesn’t answer the question of Why though but she’s not God nor should she even try to speak for God, and I would hope she never would.

Anyhow back to the reason for this post. During this I stumbled upon a website dedicated to pointing out the lies and what they deem bad parenting of this blogger. Some of it is amazing, it’s public record if you wanted to dig that deep. It also makes you wonder about how happy her life really is and why organizations such as Focus on the Family would even hold her family up to be a representative of the organization. Her husband was arrested twice on domestic violence last year. Hardly the model of a perfect family. But they have become very religious, I think even more religious than before, so perhaps it’s a story of redemption that Focus likes? Who knows, and frankly don’t care cause I’m not a fan of Focus at all.

It’s just interesting to know the true person behind the blog. The real struggles they’ve had, which I think she should openly address, and speak to. I mean many people in this nation/world go through these same things, losing homes, debt, domestic violence, sick children, skewed priorities, etc… so why not go ahead and actually speak to those things and how her faith and strength helped guide her through. Instead she deletes, bans and basically ignores anyone who questions her on those issues. There is nothing wrong with what’s happened in her life, so why she feels the need to hide them is beyond me. But sometimes people just like to keep the crappy stuff private. I think it just shows who you are when you tell everything.

Anyhow that was my thoughts on the whole thing. I’ll continue to follow both sites just because I find it fascinating. Plus the length some people will go to get information is amazing as well.

So back in Sept. we broke our lease on the house. Now we knew this would most likely mean the losing of our deposit and we were okay with that. But of course that wasn’t enough for the property management company. They sent us a bill for $902 dollars.

Well we didn’t have the money to pay that so we kind have been sitting on it. Today I sat down, because I have the money now, to write out a letter because they were charging a fee, which has no explanation. It’s just some amount they put on the bill, no reasoning behind it. Frankly I’ll pay for things that need to be paid for, but I won’t pay for anything that I’m not legally liable to pay for.

So I sat down to write out my letter and do some research, cause I like to word these things correctly, I don’t want to sound like a moron. In my research I found though that the charges for cleaning the house, inside and out, couldn’t be charged. I mean they’re no real law on it, but since they refused to do a walk thru with us, they gave us no ability to clean the house to their specifications. So according to the website, which I used to break the lease before, if this case was to go to court, they’d probably not get that cost because as a landlord you have to give that opportunity to the tenant to clean the house to your liking, which we weren’t given at all.

So that meant 402 off the 902 because that’s how much they were charging for cleaning. Then they were charging a 425 termination fee, no explanation of what it was for. Landlords have to prove damages in order to charge tenants. And since the lease itself didn’t list a money amount I don’t believe they have the right to just pull an amount out of their ass. I mean what prevents them from saying the fee is $1000? So I just am really wondering what the 425 covers, you know damages and loss wise.

So subtract that amount and it drops it down to like 75 bucks. So I’m finishing up the letter and putting together a table to explain better what I did and why and realize they’re charging us for a month of rent, when it was vacant. No problem, I fully expected that. But wait, the rent is 1808.33 instead of what we were paying 1750. I’m not sure where they got their rent number. I looked at the paper, it says that it’s unpaid rent for just 1 month. The paper says we were out on the 30th of Sept. So there are no days that are over so why 1808.33 and not 1750. I don’t know why they did this, whether it was a mistake or just another attempt at getting more money. So I adjusted the price to the correct one.

So once all is said and done, if they take my arguments, even if they hate it, and realize they really have no standing on these things, I’ll owe them 17.25. I’m sending a check that says paid in full. We’ll see if they cash it, I’m hoping they do so.

I don’t ask much, and I certainly don’t want to take advantage of anyone, but just because I’m a tenant doesn’t mean I get to be taken advantage of myself. And often property management companies do that to their tenants and it’s not right. I know the law, and I know how it applies, so the best they could do is at least follow the laws with me.

So we’ll see how this turns out. Should be interesting.

Apparently they kill and need to be regulated. LOL! Seriously this state is spending 350K on counting cow farts. Insane.

And to add more to the hilarity is the Air Resources Board who are trying to basically get us all to stop driving our cars because they think we’re destroying the environment. Now don’t get me wrong, I think emission standards are good things, but these people are going overboard. And in particular ruining business’ for many people, causing people to lose their business due to enacting standards based on false science. And that’s just downright wrong. I mean people are struggling as it is, and here is a group trying to put people out of business with false information, and lying to the public about this science.

Then there is a moron down in Orange County introducing a bill to the State Senate to make free parking, meaning parking in front of your house on the street, at business, etc… illegal unless you pay for a permit or pay a fee at the parking site. What?! His belief is that people won’t drive to the stores and so forth and will take public transportation instead.

He’s obviously not thought this through at all. First I will not be walking to the store to do my grocery shopping. Second not everyone has a great public transit system. I mean seriously imagine how many business’ will lose sales because people are just unwilling to part with their money? I mean people are struggling, we have the highest unemployment in the states, from what I understand, and they’re trying to take more or our money away.

If charging for parking wasn’t enough, they have more ideas, like charging us to drive on the roads. I’m not sure how they intend to do this, perhaps putting some sort of emissions monitor on the car. But they want to charge people who drive the streets and freeways for doing so. Another option is to just make it so that you can’t drive the freeways without paying to do so. Or if you want to drive in the prime lanes on the freeway (the Carpool and number 3 lane) they’d charge for that. Or just charging to drive in the Car Pool lane in general, as if car pooling isn’t saving the environment enough.

It’s all insane if you ask me. This state is darn near bankrupt and instead of cutting pay salaries, cutting the waste, they’re trying to make it harder for us to live in this state. I mean a whole bunch of companies have left this state because the taxes are insane. Now they’re working on driving a whole lot more out of the state.

I’m sure that California isn’t the only state going through this stuff right now. By the way people if you live in California and ever come across a petition to make our legislature a part-time one, please sign it. It will save us money. It’s not like the fools work full-time anyhow. We’re one of like 3 states who have a full-time legislature. We don’t need a full-time one.

On a side note, if you vote for Meg Whitman, frankly that’s just a bad idea. The woman couldn’t even take the time to care to vote on our elections for the last 10 or so years, and now she suddenly has interest? Hell no. She’s just looking to put another rung on her ladder, say she got to the governors office. Poizner is who we should be voting for. The man knows how to run a government agency, and in my opinion has run it damn good. So vote for the guy who actually knows how to deal with politicians and doesn’t take crap from them. I know can you believe it, I’m endorsing a Republican.

So on Dr. Phil he has people on who were bullied and so forth. So it got me thinking.

It’s been ten years this year since we graduated high school. For me it was uneventful. I remember certain things, I was manager of the Volleyball and Track teams. I loved doing that. Sadly I couldn’t continue to do that past the one year I did due to some issues I had with one person and trash talking to the coaches. But whatever, I got a free period instead and went home early, so you can’t beat that.

I didn’t have many friends. Did nothing special. I don’t know if I was teased. I know this one girl did hate me, not sure why I didn’t even know her and she may have mixed me up with my sister. But she would say crap, but most people in that class where she harassed me thought she was a moron anyhow (cause often she said things loud enough for them to hear her, no one ever laughed in agreement) I remember that much. I don’t remember her name, her face yes. She’s not a friend on Facebook for that reason. She’d be the one person that I’d avoid in general more so because I’m not sure why she did what she did.

I mean there was another person who treated me like crap, but I know why she did that, it was just teenage crap basically. So that person is easily forgiven and the whole situation forgotten. But when you have someone attack you, someone you don’t even know at that, it’s just odd and kind of makes the person seem like she was emotionally unstable. Perhaps one day I’ll be enlightened as to why she hated me. LOL!

Anyhow I didn’t have a bad high school years, I remember nothing from before high school, so those must have been alright too. And the hard things, had to be let go and move on because as Dr. Phil would say, why give the bullies the power? Everything is in my control. Only I can let words hurt me. And I chose not to.

I came across what would be the perfect baby shower cake this time around. It’s just sooooooo cute!

So we found out we’re having another girl! WOOHOO!

Annabelle “Belle” Mae

So Annabelle is typically spelled Anabelle but I don’t like how that looks. So I’m going with the Annabelle.

Annabelle:

Origin: Scottish
Meaning: Grace, Loveable

Mae:

Origin: Hebrew
Meaning: Form of Mary, bitter

Do you think 3 years olds understand the concept of growing up?

I’m not sure I think they do but with how Kaylee talks, about not wanting to be 4, she likes being 3. I’m not sure if she just likes the number 3 or truly is afraid of getting older. Maybe it has nothing to do with being afraid and everything to do with Peter Pan and the whole concept of not growing up that movie revolved around.

Sometimes though it’s heartbreaking to hear and it might be me more projecting my feelings on getting older and fears of dying in general.

I actually hate though that she goes to bed sad sometimes. She did not want to go to bed tonight. Cried and tried to talk to me in an effort to delay bed. But the mini breakdown she had just shows how tired she was anyhow. I’m sure if I go in there in 15 minutes she’ll be asleep.

She’s a joy to wake up to though.

“Mother (my child no longer calls me Mommy, thanks Peter Pan!) It’s morning! I love you!” or it can be something like, “I love you! Good Morning!” Got to love the kids and their way of just making you melt.

Kaylee will play. She struck a pose while waiting for the doctor this morning. Small update on the doctor front: AC1 level: 5.1 Insulin level: slightly elevated. Doctor says not to worry. Anyhow here’s a picture:

Dr. Laura had interesting commentary today, it was short and sweet. Simply saying that sexual activities of teenagers aren’t looked down upon as they should be. And I agree. Although I do agree that some teenagers will have sex or participate in other sexual activities whether it’s frowned upon or not, I do not for the life of me believe the “They’re teenagers and they’re going to do it anyhow” motto is appropriate and it seems to me this is the attitude that is most common among adults.

I don’t think abstinence only education is at all productive though. I do think that education should be based around abstinence but also include very important issues, pregnancy, STDs, how to protect yourself, etc… I think specifically they should focus on STDs and Pregnancy, and in particular how utterly hard and taxing both can be on a person.

I often think teenage girls have an unrealistic view of what having a baby means, it’s costs, the emotional cost, etc… I think if schools were down right blunt, that it’s hard, very stressful, a full-time job, etc that many girls might re-evaluate their beliefs on it.

And parents need to start looking down on these activities. And people in general. I mean yeah we can provide support, but providing support doesn’t mean the kid doesn’t get a lecture. Parents need to be more active in their kids lives.

Sometimes on the pregnancy boards you get some of the oddest questions. And not to make light of the concern but sometimes you have to wonder how these people managed to get pregnant. One day there was the troll who asked if having sex could impregnate her daughter in the womb. LOL! Can’t tell you how many people said yes just for fun. But that was a troll, we knew it. The question was just far too stupid.

But there are others, that are out there, but from serious concerned mothers. Things like “I ate a turkey sandwich, is my baby okay?” “I had cookie dough, is my baby dead?”

Seriously people a lot of the eating guidelines are there are just that guidelines, they aren’t law and if you break them your baby will probably be fine. Why? Because we live in a country that has a pretty good regulated food system. If you lived in a 3rd world country, then you could be concerned.

Then the woman who clearly have no thought for their husbands at all come out and that is what bothers me mother. The utter lack of respect for his family, the constant complaining. And then when people give solutions to problems, the “Oh that won’t work.” You’re either a victim or you aren’t. Make a decision. My MIL is quirky at best, but frankly who cares, she’s my husband’s mother and deserves some respect.

That’s always pissed me off, woman placing their mothers above their husband’s mother’s. I mean even to the point where they’ve literally cut off the husband’s side of the family. I understand, I’m attached to my mother, but my daughter still sees my husband’s mother at least once a week (she lives like 2 hours away). My philosophy, the more people to love her, the better.

Sometimes it takes a little give in a relationship. The realization that it’s not all about you or your feelings. And that you’ll have to suck it up, and do what’s best for your family as a whole, like it or not. I think women have become overly selfish these days in general. Dr. Laura would say that entitlement has increased like ten fold in this nation. I’m not sure if it’s feminism, Dr. Laura would say so, but something has changed. Everyone is out for themselves, their betterment, their happiness, and if it doesn’t benefit them, then forget it they’re not doing it. Pure selfishness.